You asked.
Without asking....
By MICHELLE A. HARDWICK
Hello.
If you've sent a link to this site to the man in your life, I want you to know something.
That was brave.
It isn't easy to say: "I need you to understand this better." Even indirectly. Even via a link dropped quietly into a message. It requires a kind of vulnerability that doesn't always come naturally especially when you're exhausted, overwhelmed and possibly wondering how much more you can carry.
If you've sent a link to this site to the man in your life, I want you to know something.
That was brave.
It isn't easy to say: "I need you to understand this better." Even indirectly. Even via a link dropped quietly into a message. It requires a kind of vulnerability that doesn't always come naturally especially when you're exhausted, overwhelmed and possibly wondering how much more you can carry.
What you might be feeling right now
You might be feeling frustrated. You might have said the same things a hundred times and watched them land nowhere.
You might be feeling guilty for the way you reacted yesterday, for the distance that's grown, for wanting more than he seems able to give.
You might be feeling profoundly alone in something that is happening in your own body.
All of that is real. All of it is valid.
What I want you to know
The man in your life is probably not indifferent. He is probably lost. That's not an excuse. It's a starting point. Men are not taught about menopause. Nobody speaks to them about it. They are handed a partner who is changing in ways they don't understand and they are expected to navigate that without a map. Some of them withdraw. Some of them fix things in clumsy ways. Some of them go quiet because they think silence is safer than saying the wrong thing.
Very few of them stop loving you.
What this book does
Menopause Wingman gives him the map.
It doesn't tell him to manage you. It doesn't reduce you to a set of symptoms.
It helps him understand what you're going through. It gives him language. It shows him through the voices of real men who've been there, what showing up actually looks like.
It is, in a way, a love letter written to him about you.
And for you
I haven't forgotten you in all of this.
If you'd like support directly for yourself, or for both of you together, I work one-to-one with women and couples navigating menopause. You don't have to do this alone.
You sent that link because you still believe it can be better. So do I.
You might be feeling frustrated. You might have said the same things a hundred times and watched them land nowhere.
You might be feeling guilty for the way you reacted yesterday, for the distance that's grown, for wanting more than he seems able to give.
You might be feeling profoundly alone in something that is happening in your own body.
All of that is real. All of it is valid.
What I want you to know
The man in your life is probably not indifferent. He is probably lost. That's not an excuse. It's a starting point. Men are not taught about menopause. Nobody speaks to them about it. They are handed a partner who is changing in ways they don't understand and they are expected to navigate that without a map. Some of them withdraw. Some of them fix things in clumsy ways. Some of them go quiet because they think silence is safer than saying the wrong thing.
Very few of them stop loving you.
What this book does
Menopause Wingman gives him the map.
It doesn't tell him to manage you. It doesn't reduce you to a set of symptoms.
It helps him understand what you're going through. It gives him language. It shows him through the voices of real men who've been there, what showing up actually looks like.
It is, in a way, a love letter written to him about you.
And for you
I haven't forgotten you in all of this.
If you'd like support directly for yourself, or for both of you together, I work one-to-one with women and couples navigating menopause. You don't have to do this alone.
You sent that link because you still believe it can be better. So do I.
Want to go deeper?
“Are You Ready to Be Her Wingman?” is a free 10-page guide drawn from the book.
Five themes, a self-assessment and real quotes from the men.
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