Frequently Asked Questions

Is this book medically accurate?
It is written by a qualified practitioner with over 25 years of private practice experience. It is not a medical textbook and it doesn't try to be. It is an evidence-informed, practical handbook written with warmth and honesty. For specific medical advice, always consult your GP or a specialist.

What if she doesn't know I'm reading it?
That's fine. Many men read it quietly first. Some share it. Some use what they learn without ever mentioning the book at all. What matters is what you do with what you learn.

What if she doesn't want my help?
This is one of the most common fears men have. And it's a valid one. Menopause can make a woman feel like she wants to handle everything alone that doesn't mean she doesn't need you. This book will help you understand the difference between backing off and backing up. And why one of those is actually what she needs most.

I'm not a big reader. Will I manage it?
Yes. It was written for real men, not academic ones. Short sections, exercises, reflections, questions to open conversations, clear language and no jargon. You can pick it up, put it down and still get value from every page. Michelle also has an audiobook underway due May 2026.

When should I start reading it?
Now. Whether you're at the very beginning and everything feels confusing, in the middle and struggling, or further along and trying to rebuild some of the connection you've lost. It's never too early and it's never too late. Start where you are.

Can I buy it as a gift?
Absolutely. Many women buy it for their partners and many men buy it for friends going through the same thing. It's one of the most loving and practical gifts you can give.

What if I'm going through something myself as well as supporting her?
Many men find that supporting a partner through menopause stirs up their own emotions, health concerns and sense of identity. This book acknowledges that. You are not just a supporting act in this story. You matter too.

Is there support beyond the book?
Yes. Michelle offers one-to-one consultations for individuals and couples navigating this transition as well as workshops, speaking events and The Wingman Circle, a community support space for men. See the About Michelle A. Hardwick page for details.